Wholeheartedly

“I love you”

Isn’t it heart-warming hearing those words from the person you love? But, there will always be the big question – how long are you gonna be “in love” with each other?

What if you’ve been closing your door for a long time, afraid to feel the pain you’ve been through for the past relationships, and when you decided to open it again, same thing happened? - Brokenness. No clue how to find the way and get out of it. Again. (But no! always remember that pain is just temporary :) )

Of course, there will always be these thoughts that will run into your mind

“why not take a risk?”

“why not try again?”

“maybe it will work this time”

OR, what if you already know that from the beginning, everything won’t gonna work? And you’re just hoping in the “magic” that some says can happen when two souls love each other, even at the wrong time? Yeah, H.O.P.E.

Well, there are lots of stories I heard from my friends and of course, mine as well. And, there were things I have learned with those stories:

1. APPRECIATE every moment you have with that person, whether he/she is the one or not; because for me, there will never be an assurance. Loving is hoping and having faith to your partner, every single day.

2. Loving someone is a CHOICE more than a feeling, and so loyalty. It is when you decided to be with that person for the rest of your life, accept his/her flaws, and love them as they are. Don’t just always see their negative sides and keep on arguing with those things, you will never know when will be that person get tired of you – "UNDERSTAND".

3. A person who truly loves you will always be there for you - he/she will meet you halfway, or even more. Just have PATIENCE with each other.

4. If he/she is not for you, then accept it. ACCEPT it wholeheartedly. Always remember that God always have something better for His children. Of course it will hurt, at first, and if you ask to remove that person to your life, then be ready for it. Even if you feel hurt or not, always surrender your feelings to HIM - God.

5. Don’t be bitter. :D FORGIVE. Or just understand what's his/her reasons for leaving. Yes, moving forward is difficult . . . at first. But once you accepted the reasons, then you will be at the finish line in no time.

6. There will always be SECOND CHANCES. BUT, you should also know when to stop if it’s really not working anymore. Loving someone doesn’t necessarily mean that you will give your 101% to that person, “SELF-WORTH” should still be there . . . how can you love someone if you cannot even love yourself?

7. If it’s over, then it’s over. Don’t beg for love. Love shouldn’t be one sided only, both of you should fight for it to survive whatever the circumstances are. Also, once you decided that it is over, stop stalking to his/her social media accounts, imagine having 5 to 10minutes stalking to their profiles will only lead you to more sadness or frustration. Yes, it is ok to be friends with them, but of course, it will be after we totally healed.

8. If your past relationship didn’t work, don’t be afraid to LOVE AGAIN (that’s what I learned from one of my churchmates). We can learn something from our mistakes . . . to be a better person for our “The One”. LOVE IS WORTH THE RISK! – “. . . There is no fear in love, perfect love casts out fear. – 1 John 4:18”

9. Loving the wrong person will teach us what we DESERVE by loving the right one. Sometimes, we should undergo through hard times to appreciate the good one.

10. PRAY for your future partner. :) Always entrust everything to God; praying will connect you to that person, even if you haven’t meet him/her yet.

Well, that’s all for now! You go Girl/Guys! SPREAD LOVE! :D I will add something when some words popped up in my mind again. Haha!

#love